Thursday, September 18, 2014

Knowing your worth

To all the girls (I loved before, joke!) in my news feed,

This is for you, girls. I'm tired of reading posts on how you hate your life or how everything is falling apart. I don't like it that you're pretending to be happy even if you are not. I know the feeling, I have been there and it suck so so much. I think we all go through that phase. I have been one of those people who reblog quotes on Tumblr about faking a smile, crying myself to sleep at night and all those drama / emo posts. I don't judge you for feeling that way but know when to stop.

"When you've done all you can and things don't seem to be going the way you want, end the struggle, accept and choose the path unfolding."

Do not get stuck there, please. Do not choose that way of living. You have way greater things ahead of you. You are just too focused on all the things lacking in your life that you can't see the life unfolding ahead of you.

"It's easier to fake a smile than to explain why you're sad" 
This quote is just so true but damaging at the same time. Yes, it is easy to fake a smile but why would you want to pretend to be happy rather than attain real happiness? Please let go of that way of thinking and move on! Again, I've been here and my heart felt heavy for not showing my real emotions.

I am not a happy person, I can say that, but I'm done pretending. I tell people when I'm sad and I stopped faking my smile months ago and life has been better. I have my own problems that I am dealing with right now and sometimes, I don't even know how to deal with it but I'm doing fine. I breakdown most of the time but I don't let sadness fill my life anymore. I may have problems but I don't let it dictate my life. It is just a phase. There are still so many things that I should be thankful for and that's where I'm focusing all my energy rather than focusing on what I lack. Before going to sleep, I remind myself of the things that I'm grateful for for that day. Maybe you should do this too :)

Know your worth, ladies. And I'm sure that your worth is way way way greater than what you believe. Don't let other people treat you less!

Surround yourself with people who will bring out the best in you. Choose people who will never leave you when you're down and will listen without judgement! I know these people are hard to find. I'm so glad I have mine and I found them in my darkest days. Be a person who will listen without any judgement at all and I'm sure you will attract people like that.

Being happy doesn't mean not having problems. It's just a matter of perspective... focus. If you see the bad things in everything, then we clearly have a problem. Start seeing the brighter side of things, it can change your life. I know this is hard, I had a hard time but you can't start without accepting the fact that you want your life to be better. First step is always knowing that you want to change your life for the better and I'm sure, you'll find the next steps. Every person has different ways to deal with problems, that's why I believe that there are no clear steps on becoming happy. It's your own life. Decide how you'll get there.

What you have to decide is how you want your life to be.
If your forever was ending tomorrow,
would this be how you'd want to have spent it?
Listen, the truth is, nothing is guaranteed.
So don't be afraid.  Be alive.

Monday, September 1, 2014

{Life Lately: Getting back up}

Going through a lot these past few months and I just don't know where to go. Fortunately, I am finding my way back up so sharing a few tidbits of my life lately (all positive because I don't want to rant about my problems anymore). Also, it's the first of September, almost there and I will say good bye (again) to another year of ups and downs.

The best friend during my alone time

I can never go wrong with chill / happy vibes / kilig books like Eleanor & Park to make me happy. I have finished reading books like this (Paper Town, Everyday, Why we broke up etc) in 2 weeks time. I swear, you guys (if ever someone is reading this), read this kind of books when you are feeling down :) It helped me realize things about my life (friends, family etc). It may be patweetums / pacute but it can give you life lessons that can help you forever!

The rainy days and its perks